Ruchi Chabra
Examinations occupy a powerful place in the Indian education system. Marks and marksheets matter. They influence opportunities, admissions, and academic pathways. Ignoring this reality serves no one. Yet, when marks become the sole measure of worth, learning begins to shrink, and anxiety takes over. Exams are not designed to defeat children or turn learning into fear. At their best, they act as mirrors, reflecting preparation, consistency, discipline, and the relationship a learner has built with knowledge over time. They show where a student stands at a given moment, not who the student is as a person. For students, board examinations are often the first true lessons in responsibility. They require independent planning, time management, focus amid distractions, and honest self-assessment. These skills are as important as academic content and remain relevant long after examinations are over. For parents, this phase demands a shift in role. Expectations must remain meaningful, but the approach must become supportive. Setting benchmarks is important, but so is stepping back and allowing children to take ownership of their effort and outcomes. Growth does not occur under constant control; it emerges through guided independence. Learning does not happen only through textbooks. It happens through classroom interactions, discussions with peers, revision strategies, mistakes, and reflection. A paper that does not go as planned is not a failure but feedback. How students respond to that feedback shapes resilience far more than the marks themselves. Discipline developed during this phase is not meant to be fear-driven. It is meant to grow from self-respect. Students begin to understand their strengths and limitations and learn how to work with both. This self-awareness is one of the most valuable outcomes of the examination process. Stress enters when expectations outweigh preparation, when comparisons become louder than encouragement, and when results begin to define identity. These are the real dangers that parents and educators must consciously guard against. Exams are not a battlefield where students must fight others to prove their worth. They are mirrors that reflect habits, effort, and focus. Students do not need armour to face them. They need clarity, consistency, and trust in their preparation. Marksheets may open doors, but character, discipline, and emotional balance determine how far a learner goes after those doors open. When fear gives way to responsibility, examinations stop producing anxiety and begin nurturing strength. If parents and students learn to view exams not as threats but as opportunities for growth, the examination phase becomes not a source of distress, but a meaningful step towards maturity, self-belief, and lifelong learning. The author is Principal, DPS Jammu |